Burnout: The secret to solving the stress cycle

Perhaps the most reliably maladaptive response to distress is “rumination.” Like a cow chewing its cud, we regurgitate our suffering over and over, gnawing on it to extract every last bit of pain. If you find your thoughts and feelings go back again and again to your suffering, ask for help.

Nor is it about not feeling frustrated by the persistent gap between what is and what could or should be.

story goes where science can’t.

and so we’re trapped in our own longing.

The problem is the world has turned “wellness” into yet another goal everyone “should” strive for, but only people with time and money and nannies and yachts

What are the benefits of continuing? What are the benefits of stopping? What are the costs of continuing? What are the costs of stopping?

A third caveat: Science is often expensive, and who pays for it can influence the outcome and whether or not the results are published.

Novices who are thoroughly incompetent rate themselves as very confident in their ability to do a thing they’ve just learned to do. By contrast, genuine experts know how difficult their work is, so they are realistic about their competence and thus rate their confidence in their own abilities as moderate, even as their performance is, of course, ex

When you redefine winning, you set goals that are achievements in themselves—and success is its own reward.