Boundaries: When To Say Yes, How to Say No: When to Say Yes, When to Say No, to Take Control of Your Life

In a society where the family, church, and community are not the support structures they once were, people look to their colleagues for the emotional support a family once provided. This lack of boundaries between the personal and work life is fraught with all sorts of difficulties.

Intervention specialists caution the family to think hard about whether they are ready to

When they no longer have control over you, they will find a different way to relate. But, as long as they can control you with their anger, they will not change.

You need others who will be loving and supportive, but who will not rescue.

proactive people do not demand rights, they live them. Power is not something you demand or deserve, it is something you express.

The sin God rebukes is not trying and failing, but failing to try. Trying, failing, and trying again is called learning.

You need to make sure you are meeting your needs for support and emotional repair outside of work.

These spouses all need to let the out-of-control spouses suffer the consequences of their actions.

“Keith,” his friend said, “Several times I’ve asked you about the money I lent you. I still haven’t heard from you. I don’t think you’re intentionally ignoring my requests. At the same time I wanted to let you know that your forgetfulness has been hard on me. I had to cancel a vacation because I didn’t have the money. Your forgetfulness is hurting