Blue Truth: A Spiritual Guide to Life & Death and Love & Sex

Feel into your lover’s heart, beating yearningly, waiting for love behind their unloving guard. Rather than reacting to unlove by closing down, you can remain open and deeply connected, breathing and feeling the deep heart openness which hides behind the hurt of your lover.

Friendships, love stories, dining, shopping, the intimate theater of hurt and joy, of love lost and gained—the feminine is at home in the fullness of emotion and sensuality, not the empty, unborn void from which the masculine witnesses life.

To the extent that you close to your deepest desire and opt for security, you feel disempowered. Open deeply, and you are free.

Your heart may still reel in response to the loss of someone you love. But if you practice opening now, then you add less self-created suffering to life’s natural fluctuation of pleasure and pain.

Whenever you believe that something or someone, some insight or some experience will truly make you happy, you are wrong. Only opening as you are is true happiness. You suffer jealousy when you forget this.

For instance, you can concentrate on your thoughts or get lost in your emotions, thus becoming unaware of the world around you, stubbing your toe. You may be drawn so fully into the world—running from one chore to another—that you lose touch with the ever-present bliss of sleep, thus feeling bereft of deep peace.

Feel hate, be hate, open as hate.

As a feminine sexual art, practice offering light’s body, wet, gaping, hungry, as open to be seen and felt as this moment is alive. Scream more loudly, undulate more fully, give your pleasure to be felt by your lover like the moment gives light to be seen—open wide as full-blown life. This is the feminine practice.

Life is a lesson of love. Your life feels full in every moment you stay open as love, however painful or joyous the love is. If you close, even for a moment, then you are creating unfulfillment in your heart and pain in the heart of those who would open in love with you.