
Belonging: Remembering Ourselves home

We are fundamentally changed by trauma, not only psychologically, but at the cellular level as well.
Toko-pa Turner • Belonging: Remembering Ourselves home
The Shipibo, one of the many indigenous tribes in Peru, have recorded their songs (icaros) into elaborate embroidery, geometric designs that correlate directly with nature.
Toko-pa Turner • Belonging: Remembering Ourselves home
So these archetypes are not just single images, or characters, but patterns of unfolding. The orphan in these tales always suffers some form of mistreatment, abuse, or neglect in her place of origin. Then there is a quest or journey put before her, which she must undertake to find her true place in the world. But to do so she must leave home, break
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No longer governed by personal lack, we begin to make decisions as an ecosystem would, from the appreciation of our indivisibility.
Toko-pa Turner • Belonging: Remembering Ourselves home
Inasmuch as we are searching for our purpose and occupation in the world, the more salient pursuit is in the who we are becoming.
Toko-pa Turner • Belonging: Remembering Ourselves home
For individuals, this may look like reclaiming those aspects of the feminine which are missing from the Good Mother: our disagreeability, our impatience, our anger, our isolation, our desperation for support. In these places lives a hidden power that, if wielded consciously, can
Toko-pa Turner • Belonging: Remembering Ourselves home
We now know belonging is a dynamic process, requiring alternating periods of togetherness and aloneness to remain vital.
Toko-pa Turner • Belonging: Remembering Ourselves home
If you’re one of the chosen ones, you will be invited, included, and spared ridicule and harm. But being ‘inside’ also comes with a hefty price to pay: you will always be expected to match, as closely as possible, the look, language and values of the in-crowd.
Toko-pa Turner • Belonging: Remembering Ourselves home
Don’t just give your gifts to people. Give relevance to the invisible by leaving offerings at rivers, or sewing prayer flags for the forest. Build cairns on mountain tops, plant wildflowers in parking lots, and live your life as it were an endless offering of beauty. Any small crumb of thanks we give to the holies makes them come alive with delight
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