A Therapeutic Journey: Lessons from The School of Life

Therapy builds on the idea of a return to live feelings. It’s only when we’re properly in touch with our feelings that we can correct them with the help of our more mature faculties – and thereby address the real troubles of our adult lives.

Seldom does this search take the form of asking the really important question: What can I make of myself that would make me worthy to give and receive such love? We want to bask in the warmth of devotion that overlooks, even indulges, our failings. Apart from our mothers, this pleasure can be a little hard to find—or to maintain over time. What I a

But that is not how the mind works. First of all, the mind doesn’t truly care about “success”; it just wants to feel loved and then it mistakenly assumes that that is what “success” will bring. Second, whether or not your life feels “lame” is really a matter of how earnestly you pay attention to the world, rather than how much “success” y

In every social interaction, we sensibly ensure that there remains a large and secure divide between what we say and what is truly going on inside our minds. The exception can be psychotherapy. Here, remarkably, we are allowed to divulge pretty much everything we feel – and indeed, if the process is to work, should strive to do so. We don’t have to