intimacy takes spaciousness to cultivate.

When we focus on cultivating intimacy through measured growth, we’re able to meaningfully vet — or curate — new members, ensuring community compatibility. If facilitated with intention, early member curation maintains the quality of the community’s intimacy, preventing trolls and other destructive members from causing community harm, or at the very

“The seeds of intimacy are time and repetition. We choose each other again and again" — Esther Perel

high-velocity member growth in early stage communities can hinder people’s ability to make meaningful contributions and build connection.

slow growth gives you time to build strong relationships with members, which is essential for developing a close-knit community.

Measured growth creates the necessary time to cultivate new members as they adjust to the community. This support is essential for ensuring new members gain the context needed to contribute and participate well.

community, like any relationship, is an aggregate of multiple narratives. Intimacy in turn can be described as the work of finding alignment across these multiple narratives.  Measured, thoughtful growth creates the spaciousness to cultivate intimacy, and determines which community narratives will persist over time.

Alignment is best facilitated with small groups of people. With each person added to a community, the alignment naturally shifts.

Meaningful community co-creation. The most generative collaborations come from community members with high, shared context.