30 Lessons for Loving: Advice from the Wisest Americans on Love, Relationships, and Marriage

Kathy’s message is that you may know on some level if the relationship is just wrong, but it requires listening carefully to the inner voice. You

“How do I know for certain that a person is the right one for me?”

believe that trying to change your partner after marriage is a very bad bet.

experts: You will have a better chance at marriage if your partner values the same things in life that you do.

“What questions do you desperately want answered about relationships, love, and marriage?”

Sometimes you just have to take a chance, you know? So you take a chance. But—make an educated guess! You have to really try to get to know each other.

You just have to love them because it’s somebody that you’d like to spend the rest of your life with.

When he and I would be in a room together with a lot of people, he would be looking at me and I would be looking and there was just a connection.

But the experts say that when you are deciding whether to commit, a list can be very helpful.